The Gift of Patience

Message from Fr. Jose Koluthara, CMI

Lord Jesus, give me the gift of patience to welcome sincere criticism.  Amen.

 

My Dear Brothers and Sisters,

The fourth Sunday of Easter is often called “Good Shepherd Sunday”, and it is also customarily designated as the World Day of Prayer for Vocations. On this day I feel inclined to speak on the gift of patience.

In the 2nd reading (1 Pet 2:20-25) Peter encourages us to be patient. The author of the New Testament as well as Jesus have much to say about patience. The fact that this word is translated in different places by different English words such as endurance, perseverance and fortitude suggests that we are dealing with a very rich concept.

Patience is the discipline of compassion. This becomes obvious when we reflect that the word “com-passion” could be read as “com-patience”. The words both have their root in the Latin word “Pati”, which means “to suffer”. The compassionate life is a life lived patiently with others. Patience is extremely difficult because it runs counter to our unreflective impulse to flee or fight. When we see an accident on the road, something in us prompts the accelerator. When someone approaches a sensitive issue, something in us tries to change the subject. When a shameful memory comes to mind, something in us wants to forget. And if we cannot flee, then we fight. We fight the one who challenges our opinion, we fight the ones who question our authority, we fight the circumstances that force us to change.

Patience enables us to get beyond the choice between fleeing and fighting. Patience is the third way of staying with it, living it through, listening carefully to what presents itself to us. Patience means stopping on the road to help, overcoming fear of sensitive subjects, paying attention to shameful memories. It means welcoming sincere criticism and evaluating changing circumstances. In short, patience is a willingness to be moulded by outside influences even if we have to give up control and enter unknown territory. May I wind this up with a quote from St. Augustine: “Patience is love at rest”.